The allure of the wilderness family is powerfully portrayed in film. “Wilderness Family Movies” often depict an idyllic existence, far removed from the complexities of modern life. These cinematic portrayals frequently showcase families thriving in nature, self-sufficient and deeply connected. But does this romantic vision reflect reality? While the idea of a wilderness family adventure captivates many, it’s crucial to examine the potential pitfalls when this dream is pursued with rigid ideologies rather than genuine freedom and faith.
My experiences in a mountain church community revealed a stark contrast to the romanticized “wilderness family movie” narrative. Nestled in the stunning Montana wilderness, a world away from city conveniences, this community seemed to embody the wilderness ideal. Spectacular landscapes, abundant wildlife, and a slower pace of life were undeniable draws. Many were attracted to this lifestyle, seeking refuge from what they perceived as a corrupting world. They envisioned building close-knit families, guided by strong principles and shielded from negative influences. However, the reality was far more nuanced and, at times, deeply troubling.
Instead of harmony and spiritual growth, the church was plagued by conflict. Infighting was rampant, and a lack of genuine faith was evident. Behind the picturesque log cabins, unsettling realities of abuse and dysfunction were hidden. The dream of a wilderness family haven, for many, devolved into a breeding ground for legalism and control.
Motivations for embracing this lifestyle were often complex. Some genuinely desired a simpler life closer to nature. However, for others, the “wilderness family adventure” became intertwined with a rigid set of rules and expectations, often dictated by external sources. Families poured their resources into building homes and adopting a self-sufficient lifestyle, only to face economic hardship in an area with limited job opportunities. Homeschooling became prevalent, driven by a desire to protect children from “worldly” influences. Restrictions on media, music, and dress were strictly enforced, creating an atmosphere of constant scrutiny and judgment.
Rulebooks, often disseminated by figures promoting strict, conservative Christian lifestyles, became central to daily life. These guidelines dictated everything from family roles to entertainment, fostering an environment of legalism where conformity was equated with godliness. The husband was elevated to the role of patriarch, demanding unquestioning submission from wives and children. This hierarchical structure, combined with isolation and rigid rules, created fertile ground for abuse and spiritual oppression.
I recall an incident where a well-intentioned outing to a skating rink was met with harsh criticism because secular music was played. This illustrates the hyper-sensitivity and legalistic mindset that permeated the community. Ironically, the children of the very parents most zealous in enforcing these rules sometimes rebelled, highlighting the ineffectiveness of external control in fostering genuine faith and character.
While many in my current church also homeschool and value family, I feel compelled to share this cautionary tale. The Bible warns against man-made rules and programs promising a path to holiness. These external systems simply “do not work” in transforming hearts or preventing sin. Choosing a wilderness lifestyle, homeschooling, or having a large family are not inherently wrong. However, when these choices are driven by legalistic checklists rather than genuine conviction and love, they can become detrimental.
A disturbing pattern emerges from the stories of abuse survivors who grew up in such environments:
- Geographic Isolation: Moving to remote areas, mirroring the settings often romanticized in “wilderness family movies.”
- Pioneer Lifestyle: Adopting outdated practices in food, clothing, and media, rejecting modern conveniences as “worldly.”
- Patriarchal Authority: The father as absolute head of the household, demanding submission from wife and children.
- Conservative Homeschooling: Utilizing extremely narrow and controlling educational materials.
- Gender Role Rigidity: Strictly defined and enforced gender roles, emphasizing male leadership and female subservience.
- Rule-Based Living: Adherence to rigid rulebooks authored by self-proclaimed authorities.
- Large Families: Often promoted as a sign of piety and obedience.
- Home Churches: Isolation from broader Christian community and accountability.
It’s crucial to reiterate that none of these elements are inherently negative in isolation. Raising boys to be responsible men and girls to be virtuous women is essential. Public schools may not always align with Christian values. Large families are a blessing. However, when combined within a legalistic framework, these practices can create a harmful and abusive environment.
The damage inflicted by legalism is profound and long-lasting. Victims often carry deep wounds from their upbringing, struggling with shame, fear, and a distorted view of God and themselves. They may see themselves as perpetually flawed, despite Christ’s redemption. Life becomes a relentless series of moral tests, with virtually everything categorized as right or wrong, often leaning towards condemnation. This heavy burden of legalism stands in stark contrast to the freedom and grace offered in Jesus Christ.
The “wilderness family movie” ideal, while visually appealing, often masks a more complex reality. True freedom and godliness are not found in adhering to external rules or adopting a specific lifestyle, but in embracing the liberating grace of the Gospel. Let us be wary of systems that promise holiness through human effort and control, and instead, embrace the true wilderness journey – the one that leads to freedom in Christ.
Galatians 3:9-14 ESV (9) So then, those who are of faith are blessed along with Abraham, the man of faith. (10) For all who rely on works of the law are under a curse; for it is written, “Cursed be everyone who does not abide by all things written in the Book of the Law, and do them.” (11) Now it is evident that no one is justified before God by the law, for “The righteous shall live by faith.” (12) But the law is not of faith, rather “The one who does them shall live by them.” (13) Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us–for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who is hanged on a tree” — (14) so that in Christ Jesus the blessing of Abraham might come to the Gentiles, so that we might receive the promised Spirit through faith.
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UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
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