Most people will breeze past the footnote, only catching it after they’ve absorbed the seemingly positive stories about sending nude photos.
But let’s spotlight what that footnote actually admits: counselors strongly object, and it could be very dangerous.
Shouldn’t That Be the Headline? Not a Buried Afterthought?
Frankly, the casual dismissal of such a serious warning is infuriating and frankly, irresponsible.
Does the author truly grasp the implications? Does he understand the very real threat of revenge porn? The countless women whose private images are stolen from cloud storage? The abusive partners who weaponize these photos for blackmail and control? How deeply damaging and violating this can be?
And to relegate this critical warning to a footnote? As if it’s a minor detail?
Because the real focus, it seems, is on male gratification. The narrative centers on how sending nude photos excites the husband. Abby sends photos, and suddenly Kyle is “raring to go!” Where is Abby’s perspective? Izzy’s feelings? They are relegated to the sidelines, secondary to male desire.
Who is This Really For? And Why Does it Feel Like Pressure?
As Rebecca pointed out, who is the target audience here?
It’s certainly not for people already inclined to send nude photos. They don’t need convincing; they just need responsible guidance on safety, which is conspicuously absent from the main narrative and buried in a footnote.
No, this message seems aimed at women who are hesitant, who are unsure, and it subtly pressures them to conform. Later in the same book, the author describes Timothy taking on household responsibilities one day a week – Fridays – solely to facilitate better sex that night. He offers minimal engagement in partnership for six days to earn sexual access on the seventh.
In that context, the book casually mentions, “She and Timothy started sharing some text messages and even, on occasion, a photo or two.” Again, the normalization of sending nude photos is presented without context, without caution, without considering the potential risks, especially in power dynamics like the one described.
When Does Women’s Safety—Emotional and Physical—Outweigh Male Objectification?
When does this become the priority?
Is it truly too much to ask for basic consideration and safety?
Where was the editorial oversight on this? Where was the critical review process?
Do those involved not understand the sheer number of women victimized by the misuse of intimate images? Do they think it’s acceptable to subtly pressure women into actions that could have devastating consequences?
And Now This Dangerous Message is Being Amplified.
Now, this book, with its casual normalization of potentially harmful behavior, is being promoted by influential platforms. This means more women will be exposed to this pressure, and statistically, some of those women will have their private photos weaponized against them.
This is not speculation; it’s a grim reality. Many women will feel exploited and cheapened by husbands influenced by a pornified worldview, issues the author downplays elsewhere.
And it seems like some influential voices are indifferent to this potential harm.
Perhaps these platforms won’t listen to reason. But we believe you will.
You understand the toxicity, the danger, the inherent wrongness of this casual approach to such sensitive issues. Please, speak out. Question the platforms promoting this book. Engage in discussions wherever you see this topic being discussed online. If you’ve read the book or excerpts, share your critical reviews on platforms like Amazon or Goodreads. We might not be able to prevent its publication or promotion, but we can warn others. We can create a counter-narrative. We can hope that, eventually, this harmful message fades away.
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And if you are truly invested in fostering healthy conversations about sex and relationships, continue to support and share resources that prioritize respect, safety, and genuine connection. Explore books and resources that offer positive and empowering perspectives on intimacy and partnership.
